It's my party and I'll probably not cry if I want to because that's a stupid song that should die, and I LOVE my birthday.
By Melissa Presti (Book Publisher)
My birthday is next week! As I was listening to some throwback music, I realized I'll be turning 28 and I'll be five years overdue on fixing everything the song "23" made me sad about. If Jimmy Eat World's music was the manifestation of my anxiety for the future and what I was going to do when I grew up, then I have some solid evidence that it's still the theme song of my life.
HOWEVER, I love birthdays. Mine, specifically. I used to think I was the only person in the world born on the seventh of May, due to a lack of education or bad parenting or an amazing inside joke between my parents. But, whatever, when it's your day you call the shots. Just a few guidelines...

Birthday Do's and Don'ts!
DO celebrate! Throw a party! Jesus, if you aren't married or have kids or see any of that in the forseeable future, you don't get anniversaries and Mother's Days. THIS IS IT.
DON'T make it into a circus if you aren't celebrating the dirty 30 or whatever. I'm throwing a prom-themed party in honor of myself (and John Hughes) and I can feel everyone hating me already.
DO think about getting your shit together because you are getting old and life will just keep getting more complicated and exhausting. A nap might also work.
DON'T reflect on the last year. Save that shit for New Years when you assess all your failures.
DO take the day off work. As long as your job isn't saving lives or flying planes you deserve to sleep in and eat a cheesecake for breakfast and watch SoapNet TV, or whatever your thing is you do when you're home alone.
DON'T come back to work with a crazy new haircut or tattoo, no one is expecting a new you returning from fat camp. They probably didn't even notice you were gone.

DO ask your elders what's in store for you this year. They love to reminisce and get the young feels again!
DON'T listen to the people who say "oh __ was a good year for me! You'll love it." Was 26 a good year for you, Lisa? Because that's the year my boyfriend cheated on me, my apartment flooded, and I accidentally killed my cat.
DO make a list of gifts you want, but you already know you'll be buying them for yourself.
DON'T blow your paycheck on a belated spring break trip to Cancun or a bottle of 50yr old Scotch. We're old enough now where these "crazy fun" ideas are called "crises" by our friends and therapists.
DON'T wish me a happy birthday on Facebook if we've never spent even one of my 28 celebrations together. I mean why are you thinking of me? Because Facebook told you to? Or because you're stalking me? NOW I'M PARANOID ON MY BIRTHDAY.
DO like! everyone's happy birthday messages on Facebook. Even the weird randoms. And do get mad at the people who totally should have and didn't because who isn't on Facebook all day at work? They should have seen it THEY SHOULD HAVE KNOWN.
MOST DEFINITELY DO what you want. Screw guidelines.
MELISSA PRESTI
works in book publishing at Penguin Group (USA). www.us.penguingroup.com
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